Do you feel you and your partner don’t have the same sexual desires? Do you have sexual fantasies you are afraid to share with your partner because they will judge or shame you? Are you acting out unwanted sexual behaviors just to please your partner? Are you finding your relationships consistently are failing and you […]
“Your ‘yes’ means nothing if you can’t say ‘no’.” Do you agree? Consider this: “If you can share a ‘no,’ I can trust your ‘yes.’” Read it twice. It is a very powerful statement. Many of us, especially within Asian cultures, often struggle with saying “no” to others. This can create a sense of obligation […]
As counsellors specialising in relationships and intimacy, we believe that informed consent, trauma-informed care, and enthusiastic consent are essential components of healthy and respectful sexual experiences. Informed consent refers to the process of obtaining clear and explicit agreement from all parties involved in a sexual encounter. This means that all individuals must have a clear […]
Microcheating is a form of infidelity that is often overlooked and misunderstood. It is a subtle form of cheating that involves behaviors such as flirting, sending intimate messages, or spending too much time with someone other than your partner. In this blog, we will explore what microcheating is, provide examples of microcheating, offer advice for […]
Do you find yourself constantly putting others’ needs before your own? Do you struggle to say no, even when it’s not in your best interest? If so, you may have people pleaser tendencies. In this blog, we’ll explore the link between people pleasing and childhood upbringing and provide tips on how to address these tendencies. […]
In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy for couples to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, often neglecting to nurture their relationship. This is where the concept of a relationship “check-in” comes into play. As a relationship counselor and clinical sexologist, I have seen firsthand the positive impact that regular check-ins […]
As counsellors, we often see how the concept of darkness can evoke fear or discomfort in individuals. However, when it comes to sleep, darkness plays a crucial role in promoting optimal health and well-being. In this blog post, we will explore the benefits of sleeping in total darkness, strategies for creating a dark sleep environment, […]
More than 470 youths aged 19 and below were arrested for sexual crimes in 2023, a 30% increase from the previous year. The rise in youth sexual offending may be due to changing societal attitudes towards sexual behavior. To address this issue, authorities will train school and community counselors to identify early signs of harmful […]
Just out! 🎙️ Podcast: How Love Can Flourish in the Workplace and the Nature of Romance with Krish Phua on Impactful Coaching Podcast Krish Phua is a registered Counsellor, Psychotherapist, and Certified Clinical Supervisor who specializes in Gender and Sexuality. Throughout his career, he found that there is an important need to blend coaching and […]
Valentine’s Day is a special time of year to show your loved one how much you care. But it’s important to remember that relationships take work and effort to maintain. To ensure your relationship stays strong and healthy, it’s important to nurture it beyond Valentine’s Day. Here are 10 practices to help you do just […]
Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee and associate Counsellor Sharinder Kaur of UnderneathTheMoon.com (sister company of ErosCoaching.com) were interviewed on the The Daily Ketchup recently. We’ve embedded the videos so you can find them easily and watch all of them! Episode 2 on The Daily Ketchup is here @thedailyketchup DISCLAIMER: This episode […]
Commonality among the countries: In recent news on the same day, all three countries (China, Malaysia, and Taiwan) are experiencing a decline in birth rates. Economic concerns, such as the high cost of housing and the ability to provide for a family, are influencing people’s decisions to have children. Gender expectations and traditional roles for […]